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19 and Libido is OUT the window in my marriage!
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cecilia21
 December 31st, 1969 7:00 PMReport

A year ago I had a miscarriage and I've been having problems since then. I had a pelvic exam a few days ago to find out what my pain was. It came back all clear! I think I'm going crazy! 3 months ago I started getting treated for estrogen loss and that's working okay... But my outside won't get wet! It feels, in my mind, that I'm scared to think of sexual thoughts. Before, I had no problem with getting myself all hot and bothered. Yet, I had a car accident with my ex boyfriend who was 23 years old at the time and then he left me for a 15 year old. I went into a total depression and I think it has affected me and my ability to get aroused. It feels as if I'm scared to be aroused and happy because I'm scared to get hurt again and it's ruinging mine and my husbands relationship. Since the gyno cannot find anything that's wrong with me physically but do you guys think it's mental? If so, how would I be able to treat this problem? I'm too young to be going through this. Please! Help!

WaterWoman
 October 27th, 2008 9:07 PMReport

Welcome to life, just try to roll with the punches and smile all the way. Your state of mind is a powerful part of you. It can create illness and cure it. Why would you bring up an ex boyfriend and then later refer to your husband??? If you're not over your ex, no wonder you can't get aroused by your husband. Seems to me you need to sequester yourself and find out what You Need and then go for it.